Dr. Ruth Westheimer, the diminutive sex therapist who became a pop icon, media star and best-selling author through her frank talk about once-taboo bedroom topics, has died. She was 96.
Westheimer died on Friday at her home in New York City, surrounded by her family, according to publicist and friend Pierre Lehu.
Westheimer never advocated risky sexual behavior. Instead, she encouraged an open dialogue on previously closeted issues that affected her audience of millions. Her one recurring theme was there was nothing to be ashamed of.
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Westheimer91裸聊视频檚 giggly, German-accented voice, coupled with her 4-foot-7 frame, made her an unlikely looking 91裸聊视频� and sounding 91裸聊视频� outlet for 91裸聊视频渟exual literacy.91裸聊视频� The contradiction was one of the keys to her success.
But it was her extensive knowledge and training, coupled with her humorous, nonjudgmental manner, that catapulted her local radio program, 91裸聊视频淪exually Speaking,91裸聊视频� into the national spotlight in the early 1980s. She had an open approach to what two consenting adults did in the privacy of their home.
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As a sign of her appeal across the generations and social culture, tributes came from actor-comedian Adam Sandler 91裸聊视频� 91裸聊视频淪he always made us smile,91裸聊视频� he wrote on X 91裸聊视频� to New York Gov. Kathy Hochul, who appointed Westheimer the state91裸聊视频檚 Ambassador of Loneliness. 91裸聊视频淢ay her memory be a blessing,91裸聊视频� said the governor in a statement. 91裸聊视频漇he was brave, funny, candid and brilliant.91裸聊视频�
Her radio success opened new doors, and in 1983 she wrote the first of more than 40 books: 91裸聊视频淒r. Ruth91裸聊视频檚 Guide to Good Sex,91裸聊视频� demystifying sex with both rationality and humor. There was even a board game, Dr. Ruth91裸聊视频檚 Game of Good Sex.
She soon became a regular on the late-night television talk-show circuit, bringing her personality to the national stage. Her rise coincided with the early days of the AIDS epidemic, when frank sexual talk became a necessity.
91裸聊视频淚f we could bring about talking about sexual activity the way we talk about diet 91裸聊视频� the way we talk about food 91裸聊视频� without it having this kind of connotation that there91裸聊视频檚 something not right about it, then we would be a step further. But we have to do it with good taste,91裸聊视频� she told Johnny Carson in 1982.
She normalized the use of words like 91裸聊视频減enis91裸聊视频� and 91裸聊视频渧agina91裸聊视频� on radio and TV, aided by her Jewish grandmotherly accent, which The Wall Street Journal once said was 91裸聊视频渁 cross between Henry Kissinger and Minnie Mouse.91裸聊视频� People magazine included her in their list of 91裸聊视频淭he Most Intriguing People of the Century.91裸聊视频� She even made it into a Shania Twain song: 91裸聊视频淣o, I don91裸聊视频檛 need proof to show me the truth/Not even Dr. Ruth is gonna tell me how I feel.91裸聊视频�
Westheimer defended abortion rights, suggested older people have sex after a good night91裸聊视频檚 sleep and was an outspoken advocate of condom use. She believed in monogamy.
In the 1980s, she stood up for gay men at the height of the AIDS epidemic and spoke out loudly for the LGBTQ community. She said she defended people deemed by some far-right Christians to be 91裸聊视频渟ubhuman91裸聊视频� because of her own past.
Born Karola Ruth Siegel in Frankfurt, Germany, in 1928, she was an only child. At 10, she was sent by her parents to Switzerland to escape Kristallnacht 91裸聊视频� the Nazis91裸聊视频� 1938 pogrom that served as a precursor to the Holocaust. She never saw her parents again; Westheimer believed they were killed in the gas chambers at Auschwitz.
At the age of 16, she moved to Palestine and joined the Haganah, the underground movement for Israeli independence. She was trained as a sniper, although she said she never shot at anyone.
Her legs were severely wounded when a bomb exploded in her dormitory, killing many of her friends. She said it was only through the work of a 91裸聊视频渟uperb91裸聊视频� surgeon that she could walk and ski again.
She married her first husband, an Israeli soldier, in 1950, and they moved to Paris as she pursued an education. Although not a high school graduate, Westheimer was accepted into the Sorbonne to study psychology after passing an entrance exam.
The marriage ended in 1955; the next year, Westheimer went to New York with her new boyfriend, a Frenchman who became her second husband and father to her daughter, Miriam.
In 1961, after a second divorce, she finally met her life partner: Manfred Westheimer, a fellow refugee from Nazi Germany. The couple was married and had a son, Joel. They remained wed for 36 years until 91裸聊视频淔red91裸聊视频� 91裸聊视频� as she called him 91裸聊视频� died of heart failure in 1997.
After receiving her doctorate in education from Columbia University, she went on to teach at Lehman College in the Bronx. While there she developed a specialty 91裸聊视频� instructing professors how to teach sex education. It would eventually become the core of her curriculum.
91裸聊视频淚 soon realized that while I knew enough about education, I did not really know enough about sex,91裸聊视频� she wrote in her 1987 autobiography. Westheimer then decided take classes with the renowned sex therapist, Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan.
It was there that she had discovered her calling. Soon, as she once said in a typically folksy comment, she was dispensing sexual advice 91裸聊视频渓ike good chicken soup.91裸聊视频�
91裸聊视频淚 came from an Orthodox Jewish home so sex for us Jews was never considered a sin,91裸聊视频� she told The Guardian in 2019.
In 1984, her radio program was nationally syndicated. A year later, she debuted in her own television program, 91裸聊视频淭he Dr. Ruth Show,91裸聊视频� which went on to win an Ace Award for excellence in cable television.
She also wrote a nationally syndicated advice column and later appeared in a line of videos produced by Playboy, preaching the virtues of open sexual discourse and good sex. She even had a series of calendars.
Her rise was noteworthy for the culture of the time, in which then-President Ronald Reagan91裸聊视频檚 administration was hostile to Planned Parenthood and aligned with pro-conservative voices.
Phyllis Schlafly, a staunch anti-feminist, wrote in a 1999 piece 91裸聊视频淭he Dangers of Sex Education,91裸聊视频� that Westheimer, as well as Gloria Steinem, Anita Hill, Madonna, Ellen DeGeneres and others were promoting 91裸聊视频減rovocative sex chatter91裸聊视频� and 91裸聊视频渞ampant immorality.91裸聊视频�
Father Edwin O91裸聊视频橞rien, the director of communications for the Catholic archdiocese of New York who would go on to become a cardinal, called her work upsetting and morally compromised.
91裸聊视频淚t91裸聊视频檚 pure hedonism,91裸聊视频� O91裸聊视频橞rien wrote in a 1982 opinion published by The Wall Street Journal. 91裸聊视频淭he message is just indulge yourself; whatever feels good is good. There is no higher law of overriding morality, and there91裸聊视频檚 also no responsibility.91裸聊视频�
Westheimer made appearances on 91裸聊视频淭he Howard Stern Radio Show,91裸聊视频� 91裸聊视频淣ightline,91裸聊视频� 91裸聊视频淭he Tonight Show,91裸聊视频� 91裸聊视频淭he Ellen DeGeneres Show,91裸聊视频� 91裸聊视频淭he Dr. Oz Show91裸聊视频� and 91裸聊视频淟ate Night with David Letterman.91裸聊视频� She played herself in episodes of 91裸聊视频淨uantum Leap91裸聊视频� and 91裸聊视频淟ove Boat: The Next Wave.91裸聊视频�
Her books include 91裸聊视频淪ex for Dummies,91裸聊视频� her autobiographical works 91裸聊视频淎ll in a Lifetime91裸聊视频� (1987) and 91裸聊视频淢usically Speaking: A Life through Song91裸聊视频� (2003). The documentary 91裸聊视频淎sk Dr. Ruth91裸聊视频� aired in 2019.
During her time as a radio and television personality, she remained committed to teaching, with posts at Yale, Hunter, Princeton and Columbia universities and a busy college lecture schedule. She also maintained a private practice throughout her life.
Westheimer received an honorary doctorate from Hebrew Union College-Institute of Religion for her work in human sexuality and her commitment to the Jewish people, Israel and religion. In 2001 she received the Ellis Island Medal of Honor and the Leo Baeck Medal, and in 2004, she received the degree of Doctor of Letters, honoris causa, from Trinity College.
Ryan White, the director of 91裸聊视频淎sk Dr. Ruth,91裸聊视频� that Westheimer was never someone following trends. She was always an ally of gay rights and an advocate for family planning.
91裸聊视频淪he was at the forefront of both of those things throughout her entire life. I met her friends from her orphanage saying even when she met gay people throughout her life in the 91裸聊视频�30s, 91裸聊视频�40s, and 91裸聊视频�50s she was always accepting of those people and always saying that people should be treated with respect.91裸聊视频�
She is survived by two children, Joel and Miriam, and four grandchildren.
Mark Kennedy, The Associated Press
