At what age should kids be on social media? Should they be on it at all? If they aren91裸聊视频檛, will they be social pariahs? Should parents monitor their conversations? Do parental controls work?

Navigating social media as a parent 91裸聊视频� not to mention a child 91裸聊视频� is not easy. Using social media platforms is still the default for most American teenagers, with the Pew Research Center reporting that 58% of teens are daily users of TikTok, including 17% who describe their TikTok use as almost constant. About half of teens use Snapchat and Instagram daily, with near-constant use at 14% and 8% for each, respectively.

But parents 91裸聊视频� and even some teens themselves 91裸聊视频� are growing increasingly concerned about the effects of social media use on young people. Lawmakers have taken notice and have held multiple congressional hearings on child online safety. But even with apparent bipartisan unity, making laws and regulating companies takes time. So far, no regulation has passed.

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IS 13 THE MAGIC AGE FOR SOCIAL MEDIA?

There91裸聊视频檚 already, technically, a rule that prohibits kids under 13 from using platforms that advertise to them without parental consent: The Children91裸聊视频檚 Online Privacy Protection Act that went into effect in 2000, before today91裸聊视频檚 teenagers were even born.

The goal was to protect kids91裸聊视频� online privacy by requiring websites and online services to disclose clear privacy policies and get parents91裸聊视频� consent before gathering personal information on their kids, among other things. To comply, social media companies have generally banned kids under 13 from signing up for their services.

But times have changed, and online privacy is no longer the only concern when it comes to kids being online. There91裸聊视频檚 bullying, harassment, the risk of developing eating disorders, suicidal thoughts or worse.

For years, there has been a push among parents, educators and tech experts to wait to give children phones 91裸聊视频� and access to social media 91裸聊视频� until they are older, such as the 91裸聊视频淲ait Until 8th91裸聊视频� pledge that has parents sign a pledge not to give their kids a smartphone until the 8th grade, or about age 13 or 14. Some wait even later, like 16 or 17.

But neither social media companies nor the government have done anything concrete to increase the age limit.

IF THE LAW WON91裸聊视频橳 BAN KIDS, SHOULD PARENTS?

91裸聊视频淭here is not necessarily a magical age,91裸聊视频� said Christine Elgersma, a social media expert at the nonprofit Common Sense Media. But, she added, 91裸聊视频�13 is probably not the best age for kids to get on social media.91裸聊视频�

The laws currently being proposed include blanket bans on the under-13 set when it comes to social media. The problem? There91裸聊视频檚 no easy way to verify a person91裸聊视频檚 age when they sign up for apps and online services. And the apps popular with teens today were created for adults first. Companies have added some safeguards over the years, Elgersma noted, but these are piecemeal changes, not fundamental rethinks of the services.

91裸聊视频淒evelopers need to start building apps with kids in mind,91裸聊视频� she said.

Some tech executives, celebrities such as and parents from all walks of life have resorted to . While the decision is a personal one that depends on each child and parent, some experts say this could lead to isolating kids, who could be left out of activities and discussions with friends that take place on social media or chat services.

Another hurdle 91裸聊视频� kids who have never been on social media may find themselves ill-equipped to navigate the platforms when they are suddenly allowed free rein the day they turn 18.

TALK, TALK, TALK

A more realistic and effective approach to social media, experts say, that gives children the tools and information they need to navigate a world in which places like TikTok, Instagram and Snapchat are almost impossible to escape.

91裸聊视频淵ou cannot just expect that the kids will jump into the world of social media, learn how to swim on their own,91裸聊视频� said Natalie Bazarova, a professor of communications and director of the Cornell Social Media Lab. 91裸聊视频淭hey need to have instruction.91裸聊视频�

Start early, earlier than you think. Elgersma suggests that parents go through their own social media feeds with their children before they are old enough to be online and have open discussions on what they see. How would your child handle a situation where a friend of a friend asks them to send a photo? Or if they see an article that makes them so angry they just want to share it right away?

For older kids, Elgersma says to approach them with curiosity and interest, 91裸聊视频渁sking about what their friends are doing or just not asking direct questions like, 91裸聊视频榃hat are you doing on Instagram?91裸聊视频� but rather, 91裸聊视频楬ey, I heard this influencer is really popular.91裸聊视频�91裸聊视频� And even if your kid rolled their eyes it could be a window.91裸聊视频�

Don91裸聊视频檛 say things like 91裸聊视频淭urn that thing off!91裸聊视频� when your kid has been scrolling for a long time, says Jean Rogers, the director of the nonprofit Fairplay91裸聊视频檚 Screen Time Action Network.

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Instead, Rogers suggests asking them questions about what they do on their phone, and see what your child is willing to share.

Kids are also likely to respond to parents and educators and the sometimes insidious tools companies use to keep people online and engaged, Elgersma said. Watch a documentary like 91裸聊视频淭he Social Dilemma91裸聊视频� that explores algorithms, dark patterns and dopamine feedback cycles of social media. Or read up with them how Facebook and TikTok make money.

91裸聊视频淜ids love to be in the know about these things, and it will give them a sense of power,91裸聊视频� she said.

SETTING LIMITS

Rogers says most parents have success with taking their kids91裸聊视频� phones overnight to limit their scrolling. Occasionally kids might try to sneak the phone back, but it91裸聊视频檚 a strategy that tends to work because kids need a break from the screen.

91裸聊视频淭hey need to an excuse with their peers to not be on their phone at night,91裸聊视频� Rogers said. 91裸聊视频淭hey can blame their parents.91裸聊视频�

Parents may need their own limits on phone use. Rogers said it91裸聊视频檚 helpful to explain what you are doing when you do have a phone in hand around your child so they understand you are not aimlessly scrolling through sites like Instagram. Tell your child that you91裸聊视频檙e checking work email, looking up a recipe for dinner or paying a bill so they understand you91裸聊视频檙e not on there just for fun. Then tell them when you plan to put the phone down.

WHAT ABOUT PARENTAL CONTROLS?

Social media platforms that cater to children have added an ever-growing array of parental controls as they face increasing scrutiny over child safety. For instance, Meta has tools that allow parents set time limits, see who their kid follows or is followed by, and allows them to track how much time the minor spends on Instagram. The company also implemented new to protect children91裸聊视频檚 privacy for anyone under 18.

Such features can be useful for families in which parents are already involved in their child91裸聊视频檚 online life and activities. But experts say that91裸聊视频檚 not the reality for many people.

U.S. Surgeon General Vivek it91裸聊视频檚 unfair to expect parents to manage what their children do with rapidly evolving technology that 91裸聊视频渇undamentally changes how their kids think about themselves, how they build friendships, how they experience the world 91裸聊视频� and technology, by the way, that prior generations never had to manage.91裸聊视频�

Putting all of that on the shoulders of parents, he said, 91裸聊视频渋s just simply not fair.91裸聊视频�